What is Wholehearted?

What does it mean to be wholehearted?

Brené Brown defines wholehearted living as, "...engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. Cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, 'No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.' It's going to bed at night and thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.'"

I am enough
I am brave
I am worthy of love
I am worthy of belonging

Those are several of the messages that myself, my clients, our collective humanity, fight to claim on a daily basis.

We want to claim these as true but so much of what we learned in our stories gets in the way. The way we interpreted and experienced moments of time began to define us as not enough, weak, needy, small, not worthy, not lovable, we do not belong. We decide these statements are true, and so we make choices, we respond and react, and we live under the weight of these ... crushing our ability to live wholehearted.

I believe that living wholeheartedly comes from understanding how you got to where you are now, how far you've come, and aligning your choices with who you want to become as best you can with tons of flexibility for change. It's knowing how you're wired, knowing what you value, understanding your story and how every experience from day zero still shows up.

Wholeheartedness is a journey. It's growing in the ability to be curious, compassionate, and courageous in untangling from our stories, and to lean into the possibility that perhaps it is true...

I am enough
I am brave
I am worthy of love
I am worthy of belonging

... and once we untangle ... we can start making choices in life, environment, and relationships that align with that. We can start living like that.

Living wholeheartedly is easier some days than others but I'm here for the journey and I link arms with my clients on their brave journeys every single day. They inspire me more than they know. ❤️